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David Sasaki's avatar

You sound to me like a very good friend. That your friends, however many they are, are very lucky to have you.

I often wonder, like Yanagihara, why it has been harder to find a best friend that an ideal spouse. Shouldn’t it be easier? We don’t have to live together or be sexually compatible or co-sign a mortgage. So why does deep, enduring platonic love seem so much harder to cultivate — at least for me — than non-platonic love?

Why do I consistently feel like the one willing to give more to a friendship than I get out of it? Surely, it must be something about me?

I loved this line enough to jot it down in my journal: “Friendship, at its core, is about choosing each other—again and again.”

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Túndùn Àjọkẹ́'s avatar

beautifully written! I can tell how much of a good friend, and how much you cherish your friends, from this post ❤️

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